I suppose we are not really following what "most" people consider tradition. You see originally we had an idea of renting a house in Spain and inviting about 20 people and getting married there. However that idea was quickly dismissed and we are now onto an entirely different adventure. Not better, not worse, just different. That being said, we are doing our best to incorporate as many elements as we can from our original idea. We still have a small concept. Yes, the guest list has grown from 20 to about 120, and the location is national versus international. But we hope to still capture the intimacy of the original intent.
All of this aside, I find it fascinating that as intimate as a wedding is, everyone has an opinion about how and what should occur in June (and I mean everyone!).
I was recently asked by an almost stranger about my wedding plans. When she found out that I was not going to be married in a church, a slight gasp escaped from her lips. When she heard that there was no wedding party, she seemed utterly confused. And at the mention of no sit down dinner or wedding favors she simply said, "Well...that is unique." Yes, thank you, it is unique and rather fabulous.
Everyone has an opinion, and while some are really better left unsaid (although they make for great stories) there are some that I have taken to heart. These are the opinions from my dearest friends. Many of them have told me time and again how important it is to do what we want to do. To not have the wedding that other people want us to have but to have the wedding that we want to have. I do not want to look around on that day or think about that day in the weeks, months, or years to come with any regrets, and at the rate that we are going I do not think that will be the case. At the end of the day it is about celebration, love, and our friends and family. (Oh, and it is kind of about the cake too...) But most importantly, whether the guest list is 2, 20, or 120, it is about the two of us.